Welcome Parents and Caregivers of Trans & Other Queer Tweens & Teens
Do you find yourself:
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Struggling to balance helping your child feel good about themselves and get the resources they need while also dealing with your own feelings of isolation, worry & overwhelm?
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Sad & Worried that you don't know what's going on with them?
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Frustrated they won't talk to you?
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Walking on eggshells around your child?
Do you wake up at 3am vowing to be more patient tomorrow and just wishing you knew how to best help and support them while also keeping them safe?
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I've been where you are with my own child, and it's so hard! I don't want you to have to struggle alone for even one more minute!
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The Story of A Mom & A Boy
When I went to Kathy for help with my older son’s behavioral issues, my younger son (who I knew as my daughter at the time) was 6. This is the story of his gender-expansive journey.
At first, I found Kathy’s methods unconventional, but she really helped me get out of my own way and I began to show up more fully as the parent I wanted to be for my kids. I found that the parenting skills I was learning nurtured and supported my relationship with both kids!
I didn’t do things perfectly (ever), and in the process, I actually learned to let go of the faulty thinking of perfectionism. I became able to help my kids feel seen and heard when they were struggling, and listen with my heart, rather than my fear.
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Over the next few years, I cultivated a relationship of trust, love and support with my younger child that would carry us through his gender transition.
When my daughter was in 6th grade, she came out to me as pansexual. A few months later, they came out to me as non-binary. 9 months later, he came out as trans male. I experienced some grief with each gender transition, but, with Kathy’s support and guidance, I was always able to keep showing up for him in a loving and supportive way.
My son turned to me during all of these transitions, because of the strong relationship foundation we had built earlier. He knew that I would accept him fully, no matter what scary or difficult thing he shared with me. At 16, he still comes to me when things are hard.
Together, we made it through his suicide attempt and hospitalization at 13, his transition to male through hormone therapy, his legal name change and his recent gender affirming surgery. Every step of the way he felt supported, validated, and heard.
Because of Kathy’s support, teaching, and guidance over 10 years, I have learned to listen to my inner wisdom and trust myself. I have learned to notice when I’m feeling triggered and not take it out on my kids. I have learned to be present with an open heart to anchor my children when they are feeling out of sorts. I am so grateful to my work with Kathy. She has truly changed my life and my kids’ lives for the better.
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(Stock image used to keep my client and her son safe)