A No-Yell™ Approach to Peace At Home 

Providing empathy, support and education for parents & caregivers

 

At Parenting Beyond Words

  • Connection Matters More Than Perfection.

  • Behavior is an SOS, Not An Attack.

  • The Better You Do,

The Better Your Child Does.

  • Small Changes Lead To Big Results.

  • Your Child Wants To Please You.

  • What You Focus On Increases.

  • Families Are Dynamic Systems.

All Members Affect One Another. 

Kathy Whitham, RN  Video courtesy of Glenn Koenig, Open Eyes Video.
Dear mom, dad or caregiver,

 

You found your way here!

Which of the following describes you?

  • You want to be the best parent you can be.

  • You don't understand what's happening with your child.

  • You're at your wit’s end with your child’s button-pushing behavior.

  • You're trying to navigate the challenges of having a transgender or gender non-conforming child and everything that means... 

  • You’re doing your best to follow the things that you’ve read in books and heard from other parents and they’re just not working with your child.

  • You end up in a downward spiral every day that goes like this:

    • Asking​

    • Reasoning

    • Bargaining

    • Threatening

    • Yelling

  • You want a systematic approach to help you respond rather than react so you can feel calm and confident about what you're doing.

I want you to know...

You were never meant to do this parenting thing alone! 

“I feel very connected to my kids and am able to tune in to what they need in the moment.”

Janine - MA, Licensed Acupuncturist, Yoga teacher, mom of 2

When I started working with Kathy I felt so overwhelmed - like it was all beyond me and I had no idea how to handle what was going on with my kids. We were always yelling, things would escalate and it was ugly. No-one was happy and i didn't know what to do. 

 

Now I feel very connected to my kids and am able to tune in to what they need in the moment. When there's an outburst, I can step back and not have to take it personally. I have confidence that we can shift from there and deal with what’s really going on...and I know we’re all going to be OK!

Kathy tree 3.jpg

 

Hi, I’m Kathy

 

As an RN, parenting coach, child behavior specialist, grammy & poet, I've worked with hundreds of parents over 12 years through workshops and one-on-one in depth coaching. I've found that connected, healthy relationships are developed at the intersection of brain science, attachment theory, family dynamics and inner wisdom. 

 

When my kids were young, I found myself exhausted, overwhelmed and feeling alone with my struggles much of the time. It took years for things to begin to turn around at home, and it happened because I connected to the right support and learned a different way of looking at things. As a result, I was finally able to know what to do, and feel connected again. My relationships with my adult kids have continued to thrive and grow.

Here’s the thing...

 

If love and trying harder were enough, you wouldn't have come here. Brain Science and a larger understanding of family dynamics are not typically part of many popular child-centric parenting techniques. In other words, you ARE doing your best but I believe you may be missing a key piece of the parenting puzzle which has to do with the core understanding of what your child’s behavior is really telling you in order to respond effectively. This understanding is what has allowed me to help parents in situations that have felt utterly hopeless and impossible to them.

I believe we must move toward a Parent-Centric approach and away from a Child-Centric approach to parenting. Why? Because I believe parents are the most effective agents of change in a family. They hold the real power. Therefore, I focus on supporting and empowering you to be in control of your relationship with your child without getting sucked into the vicious “here we go again cycles” and the feelings of guilt and failure that come with them. By understanding what's happening with your child, and learning to respond rather than react to their button-pushing behavior, you can feel calm and confident about being the parent you really want to be!