When They Won’t Listen - Try This!
Updated: Oct 8, 2019
Today I want to talk about how hard it is when your kiddo won’t listen to you, especially when you’re exhausted and at the end of your rope and need them to listen the most!
Here’s the thing. And yes, it sucks, but... when you’re more stressed, your child will also be more stressed and dysregulated (because they’re little emotional sponges!) One way their stress shows up big time is not listening - like how they’re always the worst when you’re the most worn out. Think of bedtime.
When your child is dysregulated, their left brain - the part that thinks in words - goes off-line. You might as well save your breath, and try this tip, which is based on the following No-Yell™ principle: The Better You Do, The Better Your Child Does.
BREATHE MORE and TALK LESS.
The more you remember to breathe, the calmer you'll feel. It's a brain thing Even if you feel just a little bit calmer, it'll shift the vibes and have a positive effect on your child.
Then...rather than wearing yourself out by repeating the same thing 20 times, find a nonverbal way to get the result you want.
For example: Instead of repeatedly calling across the room, "Come over here!" Go to your child and join them where they are. Confidently take their hand or playfully scoop them up and bring them to you. Then move on to the next thing.
You'll conserve your energy, feel better, and be able to enjoy your child so much more!
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