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Lead, Don't Plead Through A Transition!



I believe the skill of recognizing transitions is one of your biggest parenting superpowers for responding rather than reacting to you kid's behavior! This morning my 7 year old grandson started Minecraft camp. He and my daughter are staying with Grammy for the week. He's been super excited about the camp! Ten minutes before it was time to leave, he started getting really frustrated with something he was trying to do, resisted getting dressed and was on the verge of a meltdown. I started feeling myself clench and went to get his mom. It took me a minute to get in touch with my own advice that behavior is communication as I watched her handle him with calm, confidence!

>>Here's a quick tip for a quick win with your parenting. Lead. Don't plead through a transition!

Often unexpected, difficult and frustrating behavior is communicating that your child or teen is having trouble handling a transition and they need you to stay anchored. Logically, my grandson had been so excited, I thought he'd be rushing out the door. Emotionally, however, he was having more anxiety than I realized about going into a completely new and unfamiliar situation. His behavior was communicating this and reason had gone out the window. If you notice an unexpected behavior challenge try these steps.

  1. Look for the most obvious transition.

  2. Remember that behavior is communication.

  3. Focus on being calm and confident, the best you can.

  4. Lead. Don't plead through the transition.

Your child needs to know you're still "driving the car" especially when they're losing it.


(Click the image above for more about being the anchor)

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