For parents & caregivers of

trans/GNC kids

THE STAND ALONE SESSIONS

Dear Overwhelmed Parent,

 

Are you the parent or primary caregiver of a child between the ages of 5 - 21 struggling to balance how to help and support your child and keep them safe while at the same time managing your own difficult and complex feelings. 

 

There’s a good chance that you may feel like you’re standing alone with these challenges - without a roadmap.

 

Perhaps you’ve come here looking for help. Let’s start with five questions to see if you might be in the right place, OK? 

 

Question #1: Do you wake up at 3 in the morning, your head spinning with self-doubt, worry, sadness and maybe even anger?

 

Question #2: Are you unsure how to sort out typical age-related issues from gender issues?

 

Question #3: Do you feel like you're always walking on eggshells?

Question #4:  Are you hesitant about how much to get involved and how much to step back when it comes to  supporting your child?

 

Question #5: Do you struggle with the anxiety of needing to know your child is sure before they do anything drastic?

 

If you answered, “Yes” to one or more of the above questions, then there’s a good chance that I can help you navigate this parenting journey.

 

Perhaps the most important thing I can underscore here is this:

 

You are not alone.

 

But many parents feel like they are.

 

They don’t realize how many parents, like them, are struggling on their own, without support and without a roadmap for what to do.

Hi, I'm Kathy

I’m Kathy Whitham a Registered Nurse, Trauma-informed Parenting & Family Coach, Mom, Grammy and Poet. My coaching approach lies at the intersection of brain science, attachment, family dynamics & self-compassion.

 

I specialize in helping parents like you because I was that struggling parent. My now 32 yr old son, is on the other side of his transition and doing great as a high school special education teacher. He came out as transgender 12 years ago on the stoop of our Queens apartment after our weekly pizza date - Pizza dates that had been crucial to the much needed relationship repair that had begun only the year before. 

 

Since then, our relationship has gotten better and better, as has he. I’ve gone on to work with hundreds of parents in both workshops and one-on-one, in-depth coaching sessions helping them nurture better relationships with their kids and restore peace at home.

Here’s the thing...

 

I believe we must move toward a parent-centric approach and away from a child-centric approach to parenting. Why? Because I believe parents are the most effective agents of change in a family. They hold the real power. Therefore, I focus on supporting and empowering parents to be in control of their relationship with their child without getting sucked into the vicious “here we go again cycles” and the feelings of guilt and failure that come with them.

Brain Science and a larger understanding of family dynamics are not typically part of many popular child-centric parenting techniques. In other words, you ARE doing your best but I believe you may be missing a key piece of the parenting puzzle which has to do with the core understanding of what your child’s behavior is really telling you in order to respond effectively.

The understandings in the paragraph above are what allow me to help parents in situations that have felt utterly hopeless and impossible to them.

The Parent-Centric approach builds on a parent or caregiver's strengths and places the keys to change in their hands and in the power of the relationship. It’s rooted in ‘understanding what your child’s behavior is telling you' so you can respond effectively.

Child-Centric approaches place the keys to change in the child’s hands. They’re rooted in ‘trying to get your kid to do what you want them to do’ and often use techniques that utilize rewards and consequences to motivate a child’s behavior, even though these techniques don't build the internal motivation that's important for long-term success and good self-esteem. 

          

The 7 Principles of Parent-Centric parenting are as follows:

 

  1. Connection matters more than perfection.

  2. Behavior is an SOS, not an attack.

  3. The better you do, the better your child does.

  4. Families are dynamic systems where all members affect each other.

  5. Your child wants to please you

  6. Small changes lead to big results.

  7. What you focus on increases.

 

You’re here because you love your child and want to be the best parent you can be. You’re also here because you’re at your wit's end, and worried about whether your child will be OK down the road.

 

Perhaps you’re frustrated by advice from books, peers, blogs and friends, that doesn’t seem to work with your child and you don’t know what to do next. Maybe things are even getting worse the harder you try.

If any of this sounds familiar, then you’re in the right place to try something different. So, I’d like to formally invite you to consider signing up for...

The Stand Alone Sessions:

 

What is it? A 60-80 minute one-on-one session designed to set you up to successfully move toward the change you're wanting at home.

Why do you call it the Stand Alone Sessions? As I shared in the beginning of this letter, most parents feel like they are ‘standing alone’ in dealing with their family challenges.

 

How much does it cost? My fee for this session is $150. 

If a one-on-one coaching session is still unavailable to you, but you need support, PLEASE reach out to me.  kathy@parentingbeyondwords.com. I know of many free or low cost resources (my own and others' I trust) that I would be happy to share with you. Also, check out my inclusive parent group which I offer on a sliding scale basis. Sheltering In place With Kids

 

Where is it? The session will be conducted virtually by voice or video call.

 

Why do I offer them? The Stand Alone session is my way of giving you a chance to get some immediate help, empathy, and relief, and it’s a good way for me to meet you too. 

If we click and I want to work more with you, what are my options? Once I get a sense of what you're looking for, I'll let you know which of my services I think would best support you and your family.

 

My services include the following:

  • One-on-One & Group Coaching

  • Online Classes and Workshops

  • Parent Groups

What You’ll Get From Your Stand Alone Session:

 

Here is a general sense of how the flow of the session will go:

 

  1. Identify your biggest parenting challenges - i.e. What brought you here?

  2. Explore the impact of these challenges on your family

  3. Get really clear about your personal goals and intentions for the change you want

  4. Have the opportunity to feel heard by your partner and to listen to them (if applicable)

  5. Go over the 7 principles of a parent-centric parenting approach (and have time to ask questions about them).

  6. Discuss solutions for moving forward in light of these principles

  7. Learn some immediate relationship-building strategies.

  8. Determine if we'd be the right fit to work together

  9. Get connected to the best resources to help you move forward.

I hope to meet you soon.

 

In support,

Kathy

Simply put your information in the box below to request your Stand Alone Session. Once you hit "submit" you'll be taken to a link to schedule your session. If none of the available times work for you, just email me at kathy@parentingbeyondwords.com and we'll find a time that works.

Yes. I'd like to request a Stand Alone Session

PS: I'll be in touch via email within 48 hrs to confirm your registration and give you all the logistical details you require to set up a virtual or in-person session. Please be sure to check your spam folder in case my email gets misdirected (which seems to happen!) Mark it "Not Spam" and then add me to your contacts so you don't miss any important info about your session.

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